A Spiritual Self Help Exercise; Failure

Everyone knows that failure is a part of life. Yet, sometimes we can get so absorbed in the stress of failure that each failure can feel like it is the first time it has ever happened.

Undoubtedly failure leads to inevitable pain and sadness. This comes from the fact that a particular goal we had set ourselves has not been reached. But what we learn, when the sadness becomes particularly deep, is that we had somehow entangled this goal with our own sense of self worth.

If we ever find ourselves becoming too down as a result of a particular set back, we can choose to let it drag us down further or to turn it into a form of spiritual self help. Yes, that’s right failure can be an opportunity for growth too.

Just sitting and allowing ourselves to feel and be with the pain that this failure has generated can be a transformative act in itself, for what we will be feeling then is not just the pain of this particular failure, but we will also be experiencing the pain of troubles and traumas past that have somehow wound up entangled into this particular goal.

We may not know what it is – although, by being patient with our pain, the true nature of the echo may often bubble up to the surface – but the more we are able to stay in touch with the pain, the more we will be growing inside. As a result, over time, the self defeating aspects of our inner world will start to align with our goals.

So next time you reach a set back – see it as a spiritual self help exercise. This is an opportunity for you to connect more deeply with yourself. Listen to your pain and find out what it is telling you about your self esteem and love for yourself. If any failure can affect that then you know there’s more connecting to do with your child within. And that’s always true for all of us.